Be honest. How many times do you bring out the trusty ole’ vibrator, maybe even the powerful clitoral stimulators we have, like Baci, and end up getting off with clitoral stimulation alone? Maybe you go back for seconds, or thirds, but there’s not a lot of other stimulation going on.

Listen, we get it. The clitoris is a mighty erogenous zone and stimulating it will give you a consistent orgasm. But if you find yourself rushing through self-pleasure or going back to the same thing again and again, you might want to consider stepping outside of your comfort zone. Orgasm fatigue is real, and masturbation becomes a lot less interesting when it’s boring and repetitive. Your entire body deserves delicious stimulation and there’s so many more erogenous zones to enjoy.

You may say, “don’t fix it if it ain’t broke,” but eventually, you could find yourself with a lackluster attitude toward your body and your pleasure. Not good.

Okay, So What Do You Do About It?

The good news is that toys can spice up your sex life whether it’s with a partner or yourself. We’d like to introduce you to double-ended dildos because boy, they’re a treat, and they work for all genders and orientations!

Now you may be thinking of double-ended dildos as the girthy monstrosities in lesbian porn and yeah, they can be that, but the toy has come a long way. Let’s dive into the two types of double-ended dildos you can choose from and how to use them.

Massagers Made For Genderfluid Stimulation

Allow us to introduce you to Sway, one of the newest pleasure devices in Lora DiCarlo’s family of products. Sway has way more than one way to please. Its ergonomic design with a vibrating motor on each end can provide stimulation to the G-spot, clitoris, P-spot, or perineum. (Or let it massage wherever the mood takes you.) Best of all, Sway warms up to just above body temp, giving it a real, relaxing feel. Bye, bye cold lube!

Image is a close up of Sway on a white background. Sway is a teal, dual-ended personal warming massager by Lora DiCarlo, designed for g-spot or p-spot stimulation. Image is a close up of Sway on a white background. Sway is a teal, dual-ended personal warming massager by Lora DiCarlo, designed for g-spot or p-spot stimulation.

Sway is a new kind of double-ended toy, and it’s designed for diverse and creative use, so you can keep finding new paths to pleasure. Each part of Sway is designed to fit different anatomies so you can flip it to face forwards or backwards to find just the right spot and apply the right pressure. It’s also a new solution for folks whose G-spots are deeper inside the vagina.

You can use Sway on yourself to spice up solo play or invite a partner to try something new together. Sway could be inserted in the anus during vaginal sex or while giving oral sex. It’s your world, and you can find an infinite number of combos for Sway.

We love Sway because it’s an inclusive, more inviting type of pleasure device than old-school double-ended dildos. One thing you can always expect from Lora DiCarlo is innovation, and Sway delivers. Tired of the same old orgasm? Not anymore.

Dildos Made For Two

Okay, let’s talk about dildos made for two. They may be overused in reductive lesbian porn but plenty of real life couples love and use them in less sexist situations. Unlike Sway, most double-ended dildos are low tech, made of molded silicone and with two penis-looking ends. Hey, if that’s your thing, no judgement from us.

You can use double-ended dildos for simultaneous vaginal penetration, in a position similar to what you might hear called scissoring, or sometimes in doggy style. When two folks with vaginas use a double-ended dildo it fulfills the penetration aspect, and then if the two bodies come together and touch it provides clitoral stimulation, too. The same principle applies for people who want to use a double-ended dildo for anal penetration, albeit minus the clitoral aspect.

When using double-ended dildos be sure to start slow and use a position where feedback is easy and can even rely on facial expressions. If you can’t see your partner’s face you may not know if they’re in pain, and it’s easy to overdo it with this toy. Starting slow means you both find your limit and can work together for fun and safe play.

While these toys are a little less versatile than Sway, they’re classic for a reason and hey, if it gets you off we’re here for it.

Prep For Success

No matter which kind of toy you choose, make sure to remember two golden rules: lube and cleaning. Particularly with anal sex, you’ll want to use plenty of lube beforehand to make sure there’s no discomfort.

Also, with anal sex cleaning is a MUST. A must! Take it from personal experience that putting something in an anus and then a vagina without cleaning in between can lead to a terrible UTI and is generally not a good idea.

A person wearing a yellow sweater holds Sway in their hand. Sway, a dual-ended warming massager by Lora DiCarlo, sits atop a yellow pillow next to a tube of Fluid Aqua, a water-based personal lubricant. A person wearing a yellow sweater holds Sway in their hand. Sway, a dual-ended warming massager by Lora DiCarlo, sits atop a yellow pillow next to a tube of Fluid Aqua, a water-based personal lubricant.

Our new Fluid Aqua is a water-based lube that’s safe for toy and condom use and enhances your body’s own natural lubricant.

We hope all our pleasure seeking readers are ready to try something new and invite a little adventure into the bedroom. High or low tech, you’re never too old for new toys!