Sexual wellness is often reliant on so many other life elements, like overall mental health and physical wellbeing. If you’re suffering with low libido or find yourself unable to orgasm like you used to, it’s frustrating; we get it.

But it doesn’t always have to be this way. There are steps you can take to increase your overall sexual health! And with it comes true enjoyment, trust with partners and increased desire. Plus, pleasure and orgasms! What’s not to love?

Whether you’re looking to spring clean your sex routine or have a specific struggle, here are five ways you can increase sexual wellness, starting today.

Five Ways To Increase Sexual Wellness

  • Get vaccinated. Unorthodox? Maybe. But if you think about it, singles everywhere wish they could go out, have a great time and enjoy dating like they did before the pandemic. If you’re single, one of the best things you can do to ensure we get out of the house and into the dating scene is to get vaccinated. Plus, while sex itself doesn’t spread COVID-19, everything else about intimacy does. Close contact and heavy breathing put you at risk of getting sick. Even if you’re not single, being sick means self-isolation, COVID testing and feeling terrible. There’s no room for intimacy even with long-term partners when you’re not feeling well. In short, if we want to continue enjoying sex with partners new and old, we need to make sure we’re protecting our communities by getting vaccinated.
  • Increase joyful free time. Work from home… Never seems to end. You can always promote something with another tweet, send another email, spend a little more time in front of a screen. But it’s not good for us, and being productive 24/7 wears on the body and mind. Coupled with spending more time indoors, perhaps with less privacy and alone time than ever, you’ve got the makings of a nasty mental health situation, which, you guessed it, means less sex. If you’re struggling to feel arousal or your libido has been low, start to prioritize joyful free time. Walks outside, or even making grocery runs without your partner, introduces freedom back into your life. Try spending more time at hobbies you once enjoyed, or simply journaling about your feelings. You may find that if you’ve had low libido, with joy and creativity it starts to come back.
  • Get comfortable with your body. Many people don’t know exactly what gets them off. Is it internal stimulation, external stimulation, both, neither, a little of each? Do you like it fast, slow, hard or soft? Some people enjoy oral sex, penetration, and various kinds of foreplay. Are you intimately acquainted with your desires? Even if so, room for exploration never runs out. If you’ve never tried sexy partner massages or anal play, maybe now is the time for something new. Whichever position you find yourself in, take a little extra time in solo play to explore your body. Masturbation is the best, and sometimes only, way to discover more powerful orgasms. It also boosts your emotional wellbeing and body image, which is empowering. Try adding a warming vibrator to your play for soothing stimulation! Self-knowledge is sexy, and helps you communicate wants with your partner.
  • Increase communication. No toy or pleasure product purchase can single-handedly ignite your libido. If you just aren’t feeling it, or are having trouble truly enjoying intimacy, only vulnerable conversations and strong foundations of consent can address it. Opening up about your desires can be difficult, but it’s crucial for long term relationships and for building trust. Make sure you get consent each time you have sex, and continue checking in during partner play to make sure everyone is enthusiastically on board. If sex is painful, or if a parner has a history of trauma, navigating these sensitive moments are the only way to build a loving relationship.
  • Bring in an expert. Sometimes, especially when spending long periods of time with little alone time or privacy, you need extra support from a therapist, counselor or other professional. If you’re experiencing medical issues, like painful sex, you may even need to see a doctor. Maybe you and partner need to chat with a couple’s therapist to resolve intimate communication problems, or maybe you’d like to meet with a sex therapist to discuss increasing sexual health and wellness. If you’re new to using toys and want help spicing up your sex life, we’re proud to offer free product and wellness coaching sessions for you or a group! Whatever resource is the best for you, don’t hesitate to reach out. There’s no shame in doing what you need to get the sex life you deserve!

While it’s true many of us are facing personal struggles that affect our mental health and sex drives, we don’t have to let it rule our lives. There are always steps you can take to make sexual health and wellness a priority, and your body—and orgasms—will thank you!